Some Friendships Just Don't Work Out

29 June 2015

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Some Friendships Just Don't Work Out

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It shouldn't be a surprise that I have a small group of friends. And, when I say small, I literally mean I have 6 great friends + my cousin and my sister; all of whom I can actually trust. I truly do not mind... but, it does piss me off when my cousin or sister joke around saying, "you don't have any friends". It pisses me off because they are the type of people to befriend everyone, and start trusting them all with their life stories.. I guess it's easier for them to be friends with everyone, and hang out with everyone. 

But, I'm different. I'm the shy one. I'm the one who has high standards when it comes to friendships. So, when it comes to friends, I want friends who are like me - loyal, trustworthy, honest, caring, and someone who will be there for me, especially when I need them the most. I don't have a bunch of acquaintances to  call "friends" if they don't cut it. To me, I see no point of sharing personal stories  or my time with people whom I know will probably just talk about it to others when I'm not around.

With that being said, please don't assume that I'm not friendly. Because I am, trust me. If I first meet a person, no matter the vibe you give off, good or bad, I'll still be friendly to with them. But, afterwards, I make the (un)conscious decision of whether or not I like him/her as a person which inevitably determines if we could ever be friends or not. 

I know I make this sound bad, but believe me it is not. It's just I've been burned by so many catty girls, and I just rather stay away from the drama. So, if that means I have a smaller group of close friends, instead of a bunch of acquaintances, I'm perfectly happy. 

In fact, just the other week, I decided to end one of the "friendships" that was recently developing. And, honestly I am sad about it, I really did see potential, especially considering the fact that she's Jay's best friends girl.. we could have been great friends! But, during the Wasaga getaway I recently went on, she displayed a side of her that I was just not feeling. She was so catty, and a spoiled brat just because she thought her boyfriend bought her a birthday present from Walmart (which, wasn't true.. it was a cover story to hide the fact that he bought her a Pandora ring). 

Anyways, she just became someone I didn't like. She is someone I really don't want to surround myself with. When she came to apologize to me for talking rudely and demeaning to Jay, her excuse basically included, "when I'm around my friends, we act like this." Well, if that is the case, I don't think I want to be around her and her friends. To me, it was just rude and unnecessary. 

It's unfortunate. We could have been really good friends. But, I guess some friendships are just not meant to work out. And, like I said continuously, I don't mind not being friends with people like that. 

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Finally Reunited

22 November 2013

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Finally Reunited

On November 19, I turned 19 years old.  As happy as my day was, an unfortunate event happened… Our long time family friend passed away.  It was hard to hear this news as my uncle (that's what I call him) has been apart of my sister and I's life ever since the age of 6.  I'm 19 now, that 13 years our families have been inseparable.

The viewing was last night, which was why I was unable to blog something then, and the service is later today.  As sad as it was, the family was unable to contact old friends that grew up with us as well. So my sister and I decided to pull out our contacts and try to contact our karate family.

Yes, I took karate don't be surprised.  My sister and I started at the age of 6 and we were able to attain our junior black belt.  So that was a huge accomplishment for us, and the friends we made was a bonus.

And last night, for the first time in years, we were all together in one room - and wow it was an amazing feeling.  You know how strong our friendship is when we all talked as if we just saw each other yesterday.  It wasn't awkward at all, it was just emotional because it felt like old times.  Being in that room with those group of people reminded me of my life at karate, and how much I miss doing it with them.

As unfortunate as the circumstances was, I think it sad that it takes a death in our family in order to get all of us to be together.  As happy as we all were, we decided to do a skating party with all of us just like old times.

Towards the end of the viewing, some of us started getting emotional because who knows when the next time is when we will all be together again… lol I'm thinking either Manan's or Joa's wedding (hopefully)! So my sensei wanted all of us to take a photo together to remember this moment, because like I said, it's been years since we have all been in the same room.

Standing up (left to right): Manan, Cody, Linda, Vanessa (ME), Kenneth, Shirley (my mom), Senpei Leigh, Billy, Sensei Ken, Kendra, Amanda, Lauren, Sensei Kim, Joe
Kneeling (left to right): Ashley, Daniel, Tony, Michael

Just looking at this photo makes me smile… I grew up with all of them ever since I was six years old.  We are missing other people, but hopefully we can all meet up for the skating party and really have the whole team there.  I love them all as they all made a huge impact on my life.  Thank you so much for guys!

R.I.P Bernie Sena Cabalse. 

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